Do you think it is easy to go through divorce and settelement?

I once read a fable about Adam and Eve. I may not tell it as exactly as it was, for it has been a very long time since I read the story. The story simply shows how men and women are different, and sad to say, couldn’t live together without some kind of conflict. In the developed world where divorce rate is so high, this story may help in finding a solution for divorce and settlement, where many think is an easy way out.

The story goes like this; God created everything on earth and then Adam to enjoy it. Adam was fine for some time but couldn’t help feeling lonely after a while. He asked God to give him someone so that he may not be lonely again. God agreed and created Eve. Adam was overjoyed and excited about his new friend. Everything about her was just amazing. He couldn’t help being stung by her love. He just loved her and enjoyed her intimate friendship. He reported to God saying; “Dear God, thanks for giving me Eve. I couldn’t live without her.” This didn’t last long though. He started to complain that this girl he loved most is a little bit emotional, unpredictable, easily offended, and of course talks a lot. Differences went on surfacing and Adam couldn’t take it any longer. He came to God and complained; “Dear God this girl you gave me is pissing me off very much, I can’t live with her anymore. Would you please take her away?” God responded; “Adam you said you can’t live without her a little while ago and now you can’t live with her. Sorry, I can’t help you.”

The expression that touched me most is the phrase “you can’t live without her and you can’t live with her.” Isn’t this the problem with most used to be in love and soon to be divorced married couple? Though the story mainly shows the men side of the ordeal it is almost the same for women too. Women feel men are so distant and dull emotionally and want women for only one thing. The list could go on and on but the core issue is the difference in between them. Though the biblical story of Adam and Eve never tells incidents of disagreements it is clear that they would definitely have it. Divorce and settlement was exercised among many cultures and societies in human history.

The bible, upon which Christian faith is based on, has record after record of divorces and settlements in the Old Testament. When we come to the New Testament divorce is prohibited unless one party is guilty of infidelity. Can married couples just divorce and settle so easily? What about the bond created during the time they lived under a marriage vow? “Till death do us part” says the famous marriage vow. It feels nice to say that in front of friends and family in a wedding gown, but it is another story to keep it. There is hardly any settlement after a divorce. I mean a real settlement in life. All the emotional connection and the love couples share are going to last in their memories for life. That is why divorce is very painful for couples and their children, if they have any.

Do you feel you are at the end of your rope? Do you feel you can’t stand your partner anymore? Well divorce may look an easy way out, but you will soon be looking for a partner again. Remember you can’t live without her and you can’t live with her either. The only best way to live together is to be educated about a married life. You should have a determination to pay the price too. If you divorce your present partner what will prevent you from doing the same to your next? Married couples shouldn't be divorced because they have differences. They have to find ways to accept differences and live together. Don’t think you will just divorce and go through settlement that easy. Divorce and settlement is a very painful journey.